Respect

Respect is to a man what love is to a woman It is so unfortunate that men fail to realize the importance of expressing affection to his wife and daughters. On the other hand women fail to understand the importance of showing deep respect to her husband.

Relationships must be built on a specific ordinance; love for each other, mutual respect for each other and a passion to make their relationship succeed. Unfortunately though respect can be like a hummingbird forever hovering around but flies away at the first sign of trouble. If a relationship is to succeed that bird must be caught and kept close to your bosom at all times. No relationship can succeed without respect. If affection fails respect can maintain a semblance of normalcy.

Rule one! Never marry s person you cannot respect. Now how do you know if you can respect someone or not. First look at how they deport themselves in public. Things that are overlooked in private will cause a fracas when done in public.

Intellectual depth should also be taken into consideration. It is difficult to converse with someone who did not see school as important. Vocabulary differential could be a serious blow to a relationship. Imagine yourself very Shakespearean in your expressions but your partner could only respond with obscenities.

It is impossible to find two people who is evenly matched in all areas but it is necessary to minimize the differentials. Also it’s important to manage the consequences of any differentials. What I mean is this, differences and their consequences are unavoidable. What is needed is concerted effort on both sides to minimize those consequences thus limiting personal and collateral damages.

An example of what I am talking about would be this; imagine a man who loves indoor activities and his wife is an out door person. While nothing is wrong with that. The problem can arise if she want to go out but he prefers to stay at home and read a book. It will be wrong for her to get bitchy and abuse him verbally about his preference. I will be much better for her to respect his feeling and rather than bullying him into going out with her, it will be better to come to a negotiated settlement.

Another example of what I am talking about is when there is a desire to have an evening out together. The husband is quite contented with just an ice cream treat. The wife on the other hand is looking forward to an evening out at a top gourmet restaurant because that is what she is accustomed to. Even here a mild discussion should sort things out amiably.

This is why respect is so important. Inevitably there will be disagreements and these disagreements will have to be resolved amicably. There must be no room for abuse an disrespect. I am sure that if both individuals resolve in their hearts to overcome these challenges in a civil way a wonderful relationship can be achieved.